Do you feel like you get the encouragement you would like in your daily life? How many of us do? I sure don’t, so I had to go to the drawing board and figure out why? Yes encouragement feels good and everyone needs it, but from whom? It doesn’t feel good to be trying your hardest and be treated like your not trying.

Why is it so hard for friends, family, partners or bosses to give encouragement? One thing I realized was that it might not be about me. If a boss isn’t giving me encouragement and I know I am doing a good job and doing my best, it might be because they have insecurities. Maybe they have a hard time telling you your great at your job because it makes them feel insufficient somehow. If this is the case, for me it’s important just not to take it personally. To know that I am doing the best I can and that I am okay. It goes back to the self confidence thing. If I am self confident then it would matter if others think I’m not adequate.

For me when someone is acting like I’m not good enough, my mantra is the reverse, to tell myself that I am good enough. For them, it is to see a wounded person inside of them that can’t see the good in themselves, therefore they have to act like others aren’t good enough. Send them love because they are feeling very insecure about themselves, the more encouragement you give them, the easier it will be to reciprocate.

I have been involved in a 8 year experience that has validated my truth. amazing that is has taken so long to come full circle.

To make a long story short, there was 3 of us involved and each of us was being told different things about each other, and saying different things to each other and reacting to those things, based on the information we thought we were seeing. Today the real picture has appeared and it all makes sense. Because of a clearing I had done with one person, and then another person’s clearing 2 years later with us, we now have the truth.

The funny thing about it is that my gut knew the truth all along. For me this 8 year experience has taught me a few things :

1. Clearing up the stuff, meaning if you have an issue with someone it’s a good idea to get together with them and try to get things straighten out.
2. Your gut knows everything, if we sink out of our heads and into our gut, our intuition, we will always have all of the answers.
3. Not having the truth and living through what you think is the truth, creates more stuff to have to clear, and more confusion.
4. It’s just not healthy to not clear and to not listen to your gut.

Life/our experiences is amazing and it is the best teacher we will ever have. I enjoy being a student of life and participating on the level that I do. I encourage you to look at the stuff you haven’t cleared and see if you can clean it up. You will be shocked at how different you feel. Let me know if you have any experiences you want to share.

“The only real valuable thing is intuition” by Albert Einstein

I remember when my oldest was 11 years old and she wanted a party, and was a bit confused about what to do. It was going to be Halloween, so at least there was a theme.  I remember making up different games to entertain them and it was a good thing. At first my daughter was like “Mom that will be stupid”,  but when the party started, and they were all looking for fun things to do, we were both happy that the dorky Mom came through.

One idea that I am going to share with you is a My Feet Aren’t Ugly Journaling Party for your daughter and her friends. Girls love to journal.  I have a kit that comes with my book, My Feet Aren’t Ugly, Journaling pages, a cool pen, and why journaling is so good for you. You can also use the kit for Birthday parties, and have the girls write on the journaling pages a song for the birthday girls to keep.  If you are really eager to please you can teach the girls how to make there own journals, I do this in my workshops. The girls love making their own journals to write in.

Journaling has always been a part of my life and I think it’s a good place to put your feelings, where there is no judgments from anyone.

A few great party ideas:

*Beauty Salon Day- only the girls do pedicures, manicures, and mask on each other

*Scavenger Hunts are always fun, no matter what your age

* Hollywood Parties are fun-dress up like your favorite star and throw a red carpet down and check off their names as they come in and for the first hour they have to play the part of the star.

*Bowling Parties are also fun

These are just a few ideas for fun parties. E-mail me if you want to talk about getting some My feet aren’t Ugly Journal kits, the cost is only $14.99 each.

Also, let me know your favorite party ideas.

It feels as though I have been pushing up against everything lately, and feeling not very supported. This gives me the opportunity to look at why? Why not relax into it and go with the flow?

To look at the movement of water, how it just moves with ease, over rocks, and under logs. How can I emulate this free flowing water? For me, I need to realize that life is a journey, that I get to go on to learn how to love myself and show up in the world for me and others. That everything else is an illusion. My house, my car, my cloths, even how I look!

The only thing that is real is my relationship with myself, others and a higher power if you believe in one. And then this leads me back to how to have a relationship with myself? This is something I have to be conscious of every minute of the day. When I am feeling contracted or trigger with something or someone, to explore my feelings around it, not to blame the person who might have triggered me but to connect to those feelings and grow from them.

It’s just like realizing that I am pushing up against everything and life seems harder. To realize that these are feelings that I had when I was a child. To have a little conversation with my child within, listen to the feelings wrapped around those feelings and then step up and be a good mother and father to that child within. This might look like, just shifting how I am doing something…Stop pushing and relax and go with the flow.

Throughout the day, pay attention to your body, and how you feel. Are you contracted or upset? If so, don’t ignore those feelings. It’s like if you had a child of your own, and he or she was feeling badly, maybe really sad, would you ignore her feelings? I don’t think so! So show up for that little child inside of you, and be a good mother and father. Every time I feel unsupported in this world, it’s because I am not being supportive to myself. Experiment with really paying attention to your feelings for one day and attending to those feelings and see how you feel. Let me know how the day lays out for you.