Do you feel like you get the encouragement you would like in your daily life? How many of us do? I sure don’t, so I had to go to the drawing board and figure out why? Yes encouragement feels good and everyone needs it, but from whom? It doesn’t feel good to be trying your hardest and be treated like your not trying.

Why is it so hard for friends, family, partners or bosses to give encouragement? One thing I realized was that it might not be about me. If a boss isn’t giving me encouragement and I know I am doing a good job and doing my best, it might be because they have insecurities. Maybe they have a hard time telling you your great at your job because it makes them feel insufficient somehow. If this is the case, for me it’s important just not to take it personally. To know that I am doing the best I can and that I am okay. It goes back to the self confidence thing. If I am self confident then it would matter if others think I’m not adequate.

For me when someone is acting like I’m not good enough, my mantra is the reverse, to tell myself that I am good enough. For them, it is to see a wounded person inside of them that can’t see the good in themselves, therefore they have to act like others aren’t good enough. Send them love because they are feeling very insecure about themselves, the more encouragement you give them, the easier it will be to reciprocate.

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